Agony Aunt Agatha #4


I can’t seem to focus and be productive everyday. It seems like I’m so behind compared to everyone else.

First of all, try to determine exactly why you are not being productive. Is it because there are too many distractions around you? Is it because you don’t the energy and motivation at the end of the day to effectively study?

Finding the root cause of the problem is the first step, and finding a way to counter it is the next. Changing things up such as location, putting your phone away, or taking a little nap before getting to work for the evening are some common ways many students help themselves be more productive. Here are a few things that you can pay attention to that might help you out:

  1. Time management and prioritizing is really the most important thing, and there’s a reason the point is always belaboured. It’s easy to neglect revising or even doing your work, pushing it for the next day, the day after, and the day after that, so be sure to set up a schedule for yourself that suits you. It should be at the very least, a day-to-day schedule, if not in hour blocks. Just ensure that you set an effective schedule for yourself to study! This will help you consolidate your learning and prevent everything from snowballing.
  2. Employ friends or even family to help you keep to it if you find yourself neglecting that schedule too. There is absolutely no point having a schedule that you don’t follow!
  3. Make sure that you find your own unique style of studying that works for you, don’t study a certain way just because your friend does! Some people like studying with music. Some people need to be alone. Some people have to be in a classroom environment, and won’t study the moment they get home. Find out what puts you in your most effective studying mood, and work with it. Be honest with yourself too. If it’s not working, it’s time to change it.
  4. If you know you’re busy or you’re not very effective at home, make sure to snatch up every little pocket of time you can to finish even just a few questions from your homework, or to reread those one or two pages from your notes. Even those little pockets of time can be useful, and don’t need to be idled away just because they seem small.
  5. Lastly, never let a question of yours go unanswered. If you can’t find the time right after lecture to ask, ask your friends afterwards or your tutor during tutorials. Write down your questions so you don’t forget, and get an answer as soon as possible, definitely before your next lecture – or you’ll be tripped up and stuck where you first got confused in subsequent lectures! Do not let the issue go. Clarify all your doubts immediately even if it seems small.

In the end, the most important thing is keeping your goals in mind. Set your goals clearly in your mind and work out a concrete plan towards them. Don’t give up! A negative mind is the last thing you want. Stay motivated, stay curious, stay positive, because when the going gets tough, the tough gets going. Best of luck!
Aunt Agatha! Its April already and I haven’t found a legit “clique” to stick to in class. I feel like I’m drifting between groups of people. I know it’s good to mix around but I need a sense of security that I think comes with a group of friends that’s there for u… HOW TO DECIDE    

There is certainly nothing wrong with wanting a group of friends to stick to for security reasons! Something to consider before jumping into that kind of commitment, though – these people are going to be the friends you will likely be sticking to for the next two years, that you may even know for life. So be very careful who you choose to spend your time with – be sure that they will be worth it, and that they will be the influence you would want in your life.

One good way to decide where to go is to envision yourself in the future with them – really just imagine a day in that life, and decide if it’s something you can do for two years or more. Consider that:

  1. You get along with every person. The last thing anybody wants is intra-clique drama! Ensure that you can get along well with everyone, and that you don’t just like a few of them, but secretly have difficulty getting along with the rest. Ensure that they want you as much as you want them!
  2. Be sure that you have similar morals and values, or even if they differ a little, that you can accept one another and live with one another like that. Often, these are the dealbreakers or dealmakers in any form of friendship or relationship.
  3. Ensure that you share some passions and interests, while at the same time having some different ones. This will allow you to bond well with them while at the same time learning more about one another to keep the friendships growing!
  4. Try to have different strengths and weaknesses! This way you can support and help one another when necessary, and while it’s better to fall together than alone, it’s also best not to fall at all.
  5. Be honest with yourself – do these people really fit you? Do they vibe well with you? If they are fun, make sure they are also safe. If they push you out of your comfort zone, make sure that they don’t make you uncomfortable either. Choose the people that you know will both accept you as you are and bring out the best in you, not necessarily the people that make you feel the ‘coolest’, etc.

In the end, just remember, friendships are relationships too – they require commitment, mutual acceptance, and effort to work out, even if you just ‘click’. Nonetheless, also remember that even if there is a group of people you can be found with most often, you should still always stay on good terms and interact with everyone. We’re one big family here at EJ. Best of luck with finding your people!

I scored really badly in the recent tests 😦 I need some motivation   

Don’t fret over it. It is only a test, right? This test does not count towards the eventual goal, which is A levels. There are still many more chances for you to prove yourself! Besides, one test doesn’t define you! Make sure that you troubleshoot the reasons why you did badly. But most importantly, stay positive and just study regularly and you’ll be fine! Lastly, here are some quotes I’ll leave you with, just to brighten up your day:

A satisfied life is better than a successful life. Because our success is measured by others. But our satisfaction is measured by our own Soul, Mind and Heart

Forget all the reasons why it wont work and believe the one reason why it will!

Your’s Truly,

Aunt Agatha

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